Tuesday 19 March 2013

One week to hold in my heart for ever


How to describe kon tum… sadly I’m not a good enough writer to do it justice. I would have to be a true poet to be able to explain the way the beauty and the poverty of the people and the landscape unite and sort of work together in this land - without one the other would not be so powerful, and I felt a sort of internal struggle to want to irradiate one while still keeping the other. but remove the poverty and I think a lot of the raw beauty would disappear too…




 

 
The harshness of the dry season was unavoidable. The reality of dieing due to lack of water was real – not just a 10minute black and white clip to empowering music on BBCs Comic Relief. One day our friend Teresa ran out of water so we couldn’t cook or drink anything – even the well water we had been drinking had dried up. I rode on the back of her nephews bike and went to buy the largest canister of water I could carry. It was one scary ride home bumping about on the dust tracks holding the water practically sat on the handle bars! But that £4 will only help one family, for one more day. We all prayed for the rain that night.

I also had the chance to join Teresa and her family for church. The majority of the people in kon tum seem to be catholic. So I went to the 100year old wooden church for my first catholic service, in Vietnamese. I was the only white girl in there. Again another powerful experience for me, there must have been 400 children and 100 adults in that church. A sea of black hair around me. I have never prayed so hard in my life.

But I should explain who Teresa is really. Teresa is the perfect name for this woman. She is a saint, an angel. An orphan herself, she grew up in the Vinh Son orphanages. There are 6 orphanages around kon tum with over 700 children. There are so many here because of the struggle the ‘montangne’ people face.  These are the hills tribes (some of the 54 minority cultures who live in Vietnam) who live in the jungles surrounding kon tum. the government does not treat them as citizens and they do not have the same rights as the Vietnamese people, they are very poor and have large families, it is not uncommon for the women to die in childbirth as it is very expensive to go to hospital. I asked Teresa about this and she explained normally the husband will help the woman give birth to her children in their house but the husbands do not know what to do and they will drink – if anything goes wrong the couple is ill-equipped to deal with it… if a family is very poor it is the youngest child who cannot help in the fields who is sent to the orphanage. Teresa was born in one of these communities and she took us to see her village one day. (more about this later) Teresa works for the orphanages and tries to teach the children English too. She networks as best she can and asks her friends (tourists like me who came to visit one day) for money when things get desperate in the orphanage, she takes the children to hospital when they are in need, and helps people sort out their government paperwork, she never rests, is very modest, runs an open home to all, is a loving and soppy mother to 4 children, and a humorous wife. God help these communities if anything happens to her, she is far too indispensable.

So Teresas village: we rode on bikes for about 45mins out of kon tum to a place where some of the children cried when they saw us because they hadn’t seen white people before, where cows and chickens roam free, and women seem to constantly be standing in doorways with babies on their hips. We met an ‘uncle’ of Teresas and his family. This loud laughing man in perhaps his late 40s/50s had half his arm blown off by a left over landmine from the American War. He wasn’t ashamed or awkward about it and when he shook my hand he held my hand using both his left hand and his right stump. And he beamed and beamed at me and hit me hard on the back several times. His take on it was he was lucky.
 
also i’m seriously getting Vietnamese now - I wear a face mask like the locals to keep the pollution/dust/germs away. I get slightly less stares this way too as i’m in disguise with a helmet and sunglasses on!
I also had the chance to decorate the classroom at Vinh Son 5! so exciting for me of course Smiling face with smiling eyes painted animals and butterflies and flowers on the walls and tried to teach some of the kids the colours.

We then shared a WONDERFUL lunch with the sisters. it was all ‘minority food’ from the jungle.one of the sisters had been to the jungle to pick the leaves and fruits for us. we had this rice mush with what tasted like vine leaves in it - seriously good. and these huge lychee type things which were reallyreallyyummy.
 
Keeping true to local culture we then all had a nap - we slept on the sisters beds and the children all slept too.

I also visted the river with the children from Vinh son 5. We all went down to the river - a huge muddy delta where women are carrying whicker baskets of crops back and forth across and water and men are herding their water buffalo pulling carts of corn. we played running games in the dust and dirt and bought the children icecreams.


 
then I had the most magical experience yet. I went swimming in the river with the children.i was on my own with 43 orphans splashing and clinging onto me and laughing. their beautiful brown little bodies reflecting all the low golden sunshine and water catching the light.... beautiful. beautiful....
Teresa took some photos.. if she ever has a minute she promises to send them to me...!...
 
I'll leave you with a video of me, Dang and 2 kids riding on a motorbike for late night coffee, at the end of my wonderful wonderful week in Kon tum.
 

Thursday 14 March 2013

6 orphanges in a day...

Vinh Son 6
 



Vinh Son 4



 
Vinh Son 1



Vinh Son 2

 
Vinh Son 4

 
Teresa's house



Wednesday 13 March 2013

Kon Tum Orphanges - running out of 'Wow' words for these places and these people

WOW. possibly my favourite evening of the entire last 5 weeks. Kon Tum is a big city and we are staying right on the edge of it.
It is amazing. Very very rual very quickly. Cows cross the roads, water buffalo lie in the paddy fields. Rubber tree plantations line the roads. the smell of coffee flowers and wood smoke clings to everything. Children play in the red dust. Field workers carry whicker baskets on their back heavy with corn.

 
 
We had a safe and easy bus journey and met a lovely French lady in her 60’s called Bridget who told us some amazing tales of her travels, she even lived in a kibuzt in Israel while the Vietnam war was happening and met may people fleaing from service in America there.
After sharing lunch with her we waited for Teresa, a 30yr old lady who was herself an orphan here and who has 4 beautiful children and a charming husband, who works for the Vin Son orphanages. Her dedication is incredible. Her youngest son is even called VinSon. After a coffee and chat with her we were invited to her house and to Vin Son 5 (there are 6 orphanages in total). The taxi took us to another world.
No ordinary backerpackers are lucky enough to visit here,and I felt a huge weighted priveldge to be there. Teresa and her family are obviously not rich, they live in a small house with 3 rooms - a bedroom, living room, and kitchen, the bathroom is in the yard. Greeting us were her 3 smiling daughters and one naked little son.
We walked next to the orphanage and were immediately encircled by children. At vin Son 5 the ages are from 2yrs to about 14yrs, 100 children live here. the government provides no funding at all. they desperately need to buy concrete for the rainy season to stop the children getting scurvy because it is impossible to get food to here when the rains come...
the children sang many songs to us,alll holding hand in a circle and then they wanted us to sing too - we taught them okeykokey , twinkletwinkle, 3 blind mice, run rabbit, down in the meadow, wheels on the bus, jingle bells, baba black sheet, old McDonald, head shoulders knees and toes, incy wincy spider,i’m a little engine, and then we ran out! what other songs are there?!
they sang ‘we are the children of kon tum’ it was very emotional. all their beautiful faces.
 
it wasn’t long before they all wanted to hold our hands and climb into our laps. when we left we were swamed by long hugs. some of the children even  cried.
 
but they seem well looked after by the women there and obviously have good friends and are learning well in their classroom. the orphanages just need some money.... and more teachers. I think we will stay for probably a week, but already these children will stay in my heart forever. and Teresa and her family too.
walking back through the darkness past sleeping tethered cattle with two children holding my hands. I could not have felt more honoured to be in this country.

Monday 11 March 2013

Hunger

The Lantern’s restaurant in Nha Trang is well worth a visit. Not only do they do delicious food and sell handmade trinkets from local minority tribes, but they also do some amazing charity work.

We were privileged enough to have the opportunity to help out at the Monday Food programme. Every Monday the restaurant provides free food for homeless locals. We arrived at 10:30am and helped to pack up boxes of rice, courgettes and pork. Even with all the advertising around the restaurant we were the only two to show up to help out. This in it’s self made me so angry I was close to tears. There are thousands of rich tourists and so called ‘well-travelled opened minded’ travellers in Nha Trang and yet we were the only ones there.


After packing up the boxes and chatting with the waitress the queue outside the restaurant was growing. About 50 men,women and children were waiting for the food. At first it was exciting to be handing out the food parcels but as the pile depleated and crowd got more desperate and were pushing and grabbing to get the food.
 
I soon realised we did not have enough. And that was really really bloody hard. As I handed over the last box I couldn’t help it I burst into tears, so did Sophie – we quickly retreated to the bathroom. Two drippy rich white girls are no help to anyone. And I know I need to learn to ‘man up’ if I am going to continue to be part of this kind of experience.

Talking to the waitresses after we heard many more inspiring stories of the work the restaurant does. As they don’t really take cash donations we bought some of the jewellery instead as any profit from that goes into the charities the Lanterns supports. This experience has really fired me up to continue with our voluntary adventure and to keep opening my eyes and mind to all experiences.

We needed some reflection and relief so headed to a temple and then a catherdral for the afternoon. Had the experience of sitting inside a huge bell as it was stuck and a monk chanted around me. What a day.

 


Saturday 9 March 2013

Hello Nha Trang

Arrived in Nha Trang. What an odd place! Full of Russians with severe hair cuts and colours wearing scary swimsuits.. This place is going too be huge in a few years though... some kind of Florida (90210 TV programme type) place...

When we arrived there were huge waves crashing onto the beach and it was really windy - we were the only white girls to go running and leaping into the sea unsurprisingly!

We got pretty beaten up by the waves, but it was great fun. Did a dance of celebration when we got to our hotel room - it's not a scary commune yay! and your feet don't get wet when you turn on the tap! And the shower doesn't feel like you are just being weed on from a great height :)
Even in such a tourist land though we still managed to find something truly Vietnamese to do - heard some chanting and followed it till we found a pagoda. Were encouraged to sit down by the Pagoda guard where we had a cup of tea (the most disgusting tea I have ever had) and a cigarette while listening to the chanting and watching the rats run through the pagoda.

Then today was a beach day :) sunbathed, ate a TUNA MAYO SANDWICH AND CHIPS and took some obligatory 'bikini pics' as after my food poisoning and all the amazing healthy food I'm feeling slightly more of a skinny runt now.


International Women's Day

After 2 days of being stuck in bed, watching crap telly at either max or min volume (because I couldn't control it no matter what I did) and running for the bathroom, I was finally recovered enough to take some good old Imodium and the collection of pills the Vietnamese doctor gave me and face the world again.


First stop - International Women's Day! which is a really important holiday in Vietnam, everyone gets a half day off work to celebrate and all the men cook the meals, clean the homes and buy their women flowers. We arrived at the retired mothers house at the SOS village where women of all ages were dressed in their smart clothes sat on tiny plastic chairs in little circles under the pine trees. There was a collection of about 10 men who were waiting on the women hand and foot - much to everyones amusement! The women fell about laughing anytime one of the men served them tea or bought them more food.




We were greeted by the director of the orphanage, a short fat man with a firm handshake, and taken to sit with the secretary and some of the mothers. I (hopefully politely) refused the jellied squid, not sure my stomach could handle it at only 830am and instead had a lovely bowl of pho (why I am still not bored of this I don't know!).


It was a very powerful morning, even with all the laughter at the men, to spend Women's day with such amazing selfless women - most of whom had given over 20yrs of service to the orphanage. Just incredible. I certainly didn't feel I deserved the flowers I was also presented with!